Sooooo...DH and I have a friend from college that is our age but never married. On an overseas trip several years ago he discovered the joy of paid companionship and has since branched out into doing it closer to home. T tells me about his experiences and even sent me links to a few working girl review sites. T loves the GirlFriendExperience (he very rarely dates for a whole bunch of reasons) and my reading of the other sites has led me to see that a LOT of guys like the GFE.
Which leads me to the Porn Star Experience. DH, like lots of married guys, get the GFE at home (cuddling, affection, extra touching). And if a married guy isn't getting it at home then there are issues beyond getting some paid companionship.
Turns out that I've always assumed the PSE was about actual *actions* slightly out of the mainstream. Like anal sex, having DH cum on my face, or taking videos/pictures. DH thinks its about my attitude...how I ask him to fuck me harder or telling him how I imagined him there with L. and me.
For DH, a perfect example is what I'm doing this afternoon as he takes the boys to the pool. I have the camera set up and I'm going to make a video of my and my new $80 friend for him. It'll be on his computer (in the password protected adult folder) when he gets back.
So...people...what is a PSE for you (or a GFE)?
2 years ago
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The GFE is just like what you get at home when she thinks she needs to pay some special attention to me.
The PSE is what most married men crave because it is so different from what we do at home.
Why else would we cheat? More married guys would be off the market if their wife's understood this.
See...I'm not so sure that if women gave husbands the PSE they most of the guys wouldn't cheat . Do guys *really* want their wives doing that or is the attraction of strange pussy,
naughty fun, and NSA the real draw?
I'll use myself as an example of a commitment-phobic perv. I had a date with a local woman who liked both my mind and my body (I thought she was a bit strange because she's a vegan). We go out and I can't get into her. Why? This is someone that I have a non-sexual relationship. Half of dinner we talked about local homeschool politics.
I feel freer with women that are not a part of my day to day life.
That being said I think if women were honest with themselves they'd enjoy being the PSE..especially as a change from the day to day grind of being wife/mom/employee. To be viewed as a sex object/toy for a few hours is very liberating for me.
As someone who has seen his share of hookers and prostitutes, I will say that I prefer the GFE with a little PSE nastiness. I want to kiss and hug and talk....and fuck....and I love getting oral (none of that at home) and sometimes anal and more.
The GFE is popular because men DON'T get it at home.
The PSE is series of events done for their own sake: thrilling, but the thrill is from the ceremony of transgression and the recognition of a purely sexual event.
Many married men (such as this one) think about these things, without enacting them. They are stories about how one wishes their life could be sometimes.
My DH agrees that a large part of the PSE attraction is being naughty...and it being (in his opinion) all about him. Don't know how to convince him that being face-fucked can be arousing to me as well...if you have any ideas, I'm all ears.
It's always a danger when one actually tries to live out a fantasy...sometimes the fantasy is better than real life.
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