I love swinger blogs. DH, in sterotypical PhD geek style, thinks that my interest in the people is inexplicable but approves of the ideas I get. We talk about what I read and often discuss why it could work for us (or why it would be terrible for us). After many conversations, DH and I are in agreement that swinging is probably not what we're interested in (at least for the immediate future)
Here are a few reasons why:
1) We can't find a couple we agree on to out for dinner with, let alone have sex with. Right there is 80% of the problem. DH is a workaholic geek who isn't all that good at small talk. That whole getting to know someone thing? Not his bag! One of my wifely duties (other than deep throating) is making our couple friends. Since DH cannot stand sales types (he sees them too much at work he says), lawyers, and realtors. We're pretty limited to academic or technical/mechanical types...and even then he's not good at the 'getting to know' stage.
2) I'm not interested in random cock. I'll admit this...I can be girly about wanting an emotional attachment (not necessarily love!). DH is cool with it when we're talking girls but guys? eh...not so much.
3) Dating...and having to reject someone. Being rejected isn't nearly as big a deal to me (as long as its done nicely) but having to tell someone, "Sorry, but we don't fit sexually" God, this is the reason I'm glad I'm married.
5 years ago