Why I think we'd be swinging failures

I love swinger blogs. DH, in sterotypical PhD geek style, thinks that my interest in the people is inexplicable but approves of the ideas I get. We talk about what I read and often discuss why it could work for us (or why it would be terrible for us). After many conversations, DH and I are in agreement that swinging is probably not what we're interested in (at least for the immediate future)

Here are a few reasons why:

1) We can't find a couple we agree on to out for dinner with, let alone have sex with. Right there is 80% of the problem. DH is a workaholic geek who isn't all that good at small talk. That whole getting to know someone thing? Not his bag! One of my wifely duties (other than deep throating) is making our couple friends. Since DH cannot stand sales types (he sees them too much at work he says), lawyers, and realtors. We're pretty limited to academic or technical/mechanical types...and even then he's not good at the 'getting to know' stage.

2) I'm not interested in random cock. I'll admit this...I can be girly about wanting an emotional attachment (not necessarily love!). DH is cool with it when we're talking girls but guys? eh...not so much.

3) Dating...and having to reject someone. Being rejected isn't nearly as big a deal to me (as long as its done nicely) but having to tell someone, "Sorry, but we don't fit sexually" God, this is the reason I'm glad I'm married.

The Humanity!!!

It's hard having two blogs...I've had one slip up commenting on one blog with the wrong login. Now I'm writing for two of them. I'm finding that some days I'm more interested in one than the other.

Right now we're having some pretty normal vanilla sex. Well, what passes for vanilla for us right now. anal...porn watching...me going to a strip club (I should write more about my lap dance) I bought some lingerie that I want to take some pictures of and post this weekend.

My hair color has changed...darker red, better for the holly jolly season.

I also have a draft post about cheater blogs and another one about swinging and why I doubt DH and I will ever do that.

TMI Tuesday #161

I thought I'd start doing some of these as an accountability/discipline exercise

1. When did you last use your cellular telephone as a flashlight?

Last night while staying at a friend's house and didn't want to wake up DH by trying to kill myself on strange furniture.


2. On a scale from 1-10, how comfy are you being naked?
In front of anyone other than DH? 2...unless its photos that don't show my head...that's hot!


3. What is the longest you've ever been celibate after having lost your virginity?
Maybe 6 weeks....I was older when I lost it and then a bit of a slut phase...its like I discovered restaurants and wanted to try all sorts.


4. Have you ever had sex in a car? If yes, since you were a teenager?
Yes, and it was about 2 weeks ago when it cooled off enough that we wouldn't die of heat exhaustion if we did it in the car. Kids were with a sitter...DH likes it more than I do.
5. When did you last use food or drink as medication?

When my dad was dying I was drinking to get drunk about once a week...and then he died. Now I'll have a beer or two once a month and that's it. The whole feeling the need to escape is gone.


Bonus: Name three words that:
a) get you excited
anal
b) make you squirm
dentist
c) make you laugh
poopy head

Not the only one with ingrown hair issues...

Best of Craigslist posting

http://www.craigslist.org/about/best/den/851096278.html

Been Busy...

and not much interesting in the sex world for me this week. Life, you know that thing that happens outside of delicious sex, has been a pain.

My waxing aftershocks are mostly gone, thank god. It really impeded what we could do! The whole infected labia thing is a big problem in finding positions...lots of spooning (like when I was 800 months pregnant) and doggie.

It also didn't help that older son decided that he never wanted to go to bed....and wanted us to entertain him. I got so tired my eyes were rolling into the back of my head so I certainly wasn't up for a hour plus session of fun! So it was a nice little bit of vanilla.

Last night was the first night we were able to really have some fun. I'd been teasing DH with a story for homeschool park day. One of the bi women was there as was 1/2 of a two mommy family and we discussed how *open* the nude clubs were here. Bi-Mom informed me that I shouldn't go with DH, I should go with her and that lots of the girls didn't like couples because they were always worried that the wife or GF would go off when the stripper was actually giving a lap dance. After a grownup only dinner, the kids went to bed (including older son who I'd exhausted physically with the express pupose of making sure he'd fall asleep before me)

Maybe I'm strange but just laying naked in bed and watching Bones was the beginning of our foreplay...touching and fastforwarding through commercials. HOT! *snort*

DH got about 15 minutes of one of my deep throat special, kneeling at his feet, BJ's. It's so hot when I see him lean over and brush my hair out of the way so he can see me. Before he came, I moved onto the edge of the bed on my back with my legs spread far apart...he loves fucking me while watching my titties bounce around. But for some reason, I don't feel particularly filled in that position so I requested some anal.

Did I have to twist his arm? Boy was jumping over to get the lube before I got to the 'l' sound in anal. Can I just say how hot I find it to watch his face as he enters me. The slight intake of breath....the eyes closing partway...its so cool how much he likes it. Took me all of 30 seconds to climax with him pounding away.

His favorite anal position is having me stand bent over the bed. I have to be on my tiptoes as he's a foot taller than me...but DH gets into his "shortstop stance" (his words) and just pounds away.

I had gas this AM :)

Submissive 24/7 (and housework)

I’ve been reading a lot of sex positive blogs over the past few months. Blogs about swinging, working as an escort, being poly, and being a slave or master. From a psychological standpoint, I find the whole D/s thing very interesting and until reading these blogs thought of it as only a bedroom thing.

Let’s start by me stating my bias/place in life right now: I run my house…not always particularly well as I hate housecleaning but its mine. Back when I was an adult, DH called me on a business trip to ask how to put groceries away. At the time, DH had 4 employees…now he is in charge of a large geographical region with 15+ offices under his control. And he would still ask me how to put the groceries away (that’s assuming he knows where the grocery store is anymore) and is very diligent about his Honey-Do list.

So, when I read about slave duties including housework, I was very intrigued. Like I said I hate the whole cleaning thing. I’ve tried concepts like Flylady and organizing books. The problem is accountability…I have none. DH’s tolerance level is so high that I would have nervous breakdown about the house before he’d notice anything was wrong.

Another submissive blog I read is Persephone’s Obedience. In it she talks about containment…being provided structure, boundaries, and accountability by her owners (who she is not currently relating to sexually). It seems parental to me and I’m not saying that as a negative judgment.

This weekend I had a very interesting talk with a friend of mine who is a psychologist about 24/7 D/s relationships. Specifically I wanted to talk about the structured/parental aspect of it. Now understand, she is very kink friendly, likes playing (being tied up ..never knew this about her before). Her hypothesis is the idea that people can crave the nurturing structure they didn’t get when it was developmentally appropriate.

Not sure I buy it. I didn’t have much structure at home..mom was clinically depressed and was hoarder..dad was an alcoholic. It got so bad after my dad left the military that CPS actually removed me from my parents home and I lived for awhile with a faculty member from my private school as a foster child for almost one year. And while I’d like some accountability to make me do housework, I can’t say that I feel any real interest in turning over my life to DH. With her theory, shouldn't I be a textbook case of someone looking for 24/7 domination?

Psychologist friend pointed out that I had strong external structures some of which were nurturing …the military (dad was in until I was 9 and we always lived on base) and after Dad separated, I had my private school.

It seems to pithy to me to write off the desire for submissiveness/containment to a need to repair childhood damage.

So what is it

Crotch Watch - Day 7

It’s not good. There are three ingrown hairs, one of which is very infected and required a visit to the dr. (The same one who said it looked like a lawn mower attacked me) So I’m on antibiotics because of a waxing…be careful people!

DH is just hoping my vagina doesn’t fall off ...I just don't want to die of sepsis because of someone waxing my vy-jay-jay!

Waxing gone bad

Soooo...

I went in thinking I would get a brazilian...walked out with a bikini that left my crotch looking like a lawn mower had attacked it. My doctor informed me today that it didn't look too bad...that was lovely (did I mention my doctor is a totally hot female?)

The idea was that DH and I could take some new pictures...but not with my pussy looking like a doggie chew toy.

So...to hold you over...