Or do you even think during sex?
Being in the moment is something that I personally struggle with both in and out of bed. I'm better...believe me. I spent the first part of my life worrying and planning for tomorrow while ignoring what was right in front of me.
While working in Europe it translated into worrying about my next trip home instead of enjoying my pub time. In bed it was just my mind racing ahead about what was next. There were times when I could be in the moment..but not often.
Even now I have trouble if we're having more vanilla sex. If we're doing PSE stuff like role playing, anal, or if I'm giving what we call the special BJ, I can be there and feel really connected. But often if its just the before sleep daily sex...my mind wanders and I start daydreaming about other things.
there is another woman in bed with us and I'm watching DH with her
DH is watching her and me
I'm being ravished by some fantasy person...like a hero from one of my stories.
Is this bad? Am I denying DH some sort of connection when I do this?
4 years ago